Good Relationships 
I have so many questions! Am I in a good relationship? How do I know if I am ready for sex? Where can I get some answers?
Try the Relationship Quiz to see where you are at in your relationship and if there are some things you might want to think about.
If you are feeling good about your relationship and are thinking about sex, it’s important to have all the information you need to make the choice that is right for you.
What is sex?
That’s a big question. Sex can be vaginal, anal or oral. Abstinence is a decision to not have sex.
Try the How do I know if I am ready for sex quiz? to see if you are ready to have sex or if you need to take a bit more time. Only you can decide when you are ready, don’t let anyone pressure you. The answers will be different for each person. There is no right time or right age to start, and you always have the right to say “no” even if you have said “yes” before. Remember it can help to talk to a trusted adult (such as a parent or a school counsellor) about your decision.
If you decide that you are not ready for sex, there are lots of activities that couples can do that don’t involve intercourse, like…
- holding hands
- kissing
- dancing
- caressing or mutual masturbation
You need to decide which activities you are comfortable with. It’s important that you both agree on your sexual activities and that no one feels pressured.
Sometimes you might feel pressured into something you are not ready for. It might sound like this:
“Come on, everybody’s doing it.”
“If you really love me, you’ll have sex with me.”
“We had sex once before, so what’s the problem now?”
“Come on, have a drink. It will get you in the mood.”
What could you say? You could try something like this:
“Hey, I’m not everybody. I don’t believe everybody is doing it. I think it’s a lot of talk”
“If you love me you’ll respect how I feel and not push me into doing something I’m not ready for.”
Stay Sober – Alcohol and drugs can make it harder to stick to your decision not to have sex.
If you are ready for sexual activity, it’s important to get the facts.
- Vaginal, anal and oral sex can all put you at risk for a sexually transmitted infections (STI). Protect yourself and your partner. If you or your partner have had sex before, get tested for STIs. Use a condom every time you have sex. Click here for more information about STIs and how to protect yourself.
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